Holding the secret that you’re trying to get pregnant is exciting, and it creates a special bond for a couple. Whether you are fighting with one another on a regular basis or are happy as clams, the momentous decision to have a baby can bring you together in hope of what the future will bring – new life, new possibilities.
When the baby is finally born, your new family begins adjusting. You’re ecstatic. But the constant care of a newborn also puts a distinctive strain on the two of you. The joys of parenthood are unimaginable. At the same time, the emotional demands are intense, and may even seem more than either of you can bear.
Nothing is as moving as watching a baby sleep peacefully in his or her crib. Their serene innocence automatically brings a smile to a parent’s face. However, nothing is as tormenting as the ongoing piercing cry of your baby in distress either.
Some parenting books say that it’s best to let babies cry it out. Others warn that leaving them alone is wrong. Experts say it’s important to be consistent and to get on a schedule. Most parents just end up feeling confused and have trouble following through on what initially sounded like simple straightforward advice.
Deciding on a parenting philosophy, and staying with it, when there is sleep deprivation, work to do, and maybe even other children to contend with is extremely challenging. And when you don’t live up to the ideals you’ve committed to, it makes you feel bad inside.
The first thing you can do to help yourself is to stop comparing your insides to other people’s outsides and seeing yourself as falling short. All responsible parents question themselves from time to time, regardless of how confident they appear at the park or around the conference table.
Another truth that’s helpful to remember is that good parenting is not about being perfect. Kids learn how to accept their mistakes by watching how you cope with your own. For children to learn about forgiveness and compassion, they will need to see you demonstrate these qualities toward yourself and toward one another. Lastly, harsh critical self-talk won’t turn you into a into a better parent. It turns you into an unhappy one.
5 Parenting Tips
1. Bonding doesn’t always happen in an instant. Relax with your baby, look into her eyes, talk to him, give yourself time to get to know one another.
2. Emotionally supporting your partner is one of the best things you can do for your baby.
3. Talk about your frustrations before they turn into an argument.
4. Learn from your parenting mistakes rather than beating yourself up about them.
5. If you know in your gut something is wrong, don’t be afraid to ask for help.